Talk

I usually start off my posts with titles — sometimes they come to me immediately and set the tone for posts, sometimes they are terrible titles for posts because they have nothing to do with them, and other times they are dead on. Right now I have no title at all in mind or every title I think of contradicts what I was going to talk about.

I was going over the site web logs – just sometime I do from time to time to see who is linked to Der Stonegauge or other sites I am in control of. I’ve been catching a lot of people who’ve been siphoning graphics lately, for example. I also check those logs for search phrases that are used on the Internet that leads people to this site. Sometimes they are strange terms, sometimes they are relevant because I have posts using those titles, sometimes they are explicitly (because I use 4 letter words in posts and other posts just happen to have the matching second keyword that some pervert typed into a Search Engine) and then some terms come out of the blue.

Here’s the one that made me do a double take:

he doesn’t want to talk to me

It got me thinking… It got me wondering…. Of course, I have no phrase use on the site that even comes close to that, and of course I have no clue who went on the Internet, typed that key-phrase on a certain Search Engine and got this site as a result, but it just jarred me a bit.

So I’ll humor myself here by just typing out why it may seem like “he doesn’t want to talk to me” to this person… And what the truth may be on why “he” seems the way he is.

I’m thinking about my own acts in the past that give the impression that I don’t want to talk to someone when the truth is that I would enjoy talking to them — if it didn’t hurt me. There’s only one person who I have this type of relationship with right now and it’s been like this for a year.

I would think that’s obviously one of the reasons why “he doesn’t want to talk to me” for certain women — hurt they’ve caused that push people away. Of course there are far more reasons out there that can be used to explain that phrase — a lack of confidence, a fight, a missed chance, a break up, just plain not knowing someone and low self-esteem telling you that they wouldn’t want to talk to you.

But the reality of “he doesn’t want to talk to me” is that you don’t know until you try. If it doesn’t work one way, do it another. Exhaust your means of getting to talk to the guy before you start pouting that they don’t want to talk. Don’t say they don’t until you try. If they end up saying to your face ‘I don’t want to talk to you” it’s best to just move on…

And for those who are like me that avoid talking to people because of hurt, there’s always a bigger story to things and it’s different for everyone — being used, being strung along, being lied to or deceived, having hearts broken by various incidents I can only imagine… Sometimes it’s fights, sometimes it’s the other side avoiding you for so long they don’t know what harm they caused themselves…

But to speak the reality again, you don’t know until you try… and you’ve got to try in all the means you know how instead of just hoping for things on your terms. If you really want to talk to him, you gotta penetrate the social wall around them.